Month: June 2018

• A new perspective on defining your goals

  We, human beings are simple creatures. Even though we have the ability to think objectively and rationally, we are easily swayed and influenced by images and by things we see or hear. Having a goal is the first step that everyone talks about and advises on. I am not going to repeat the same thing and I’m also sure most of you have already set a goal. We all have goals, but the problem is we define them too vaguely. Here is a fresh new perspective on defining your goals.

  “Anything we achieve now was first aimed for.“

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  When you are extremely hungry you can’t think of anything else other than food. You visualize food, you imagine biting into it and getting the sensation of its taste. This visualization increases our motivation to eat and to put more effort into getting the food. When we see someone else eating, we become hungrier. That is because it becomes easy for the mind to reach a higher and more defined level of visualization.

  Your goal is like food. Those who have defined its smell, its taste, its appearance and every aspect associated with achieving it, work more towards it. I think this can also explain why kids choose their parent’s career when the parents are in a highly glamorous career. It could be because the kids have experienced the emotion and lived through the experience of achieving the goal vicariously through the parent. For a simpler example, sometimes kids wear their parent’s clothes and footwear. Because they’ve seen their parents wear it and they have a clearly defined image of themselves wearing it. In this case, they can’t help but make the goals come true.

  Don’t just tell yourself I am going to do x, or I am going to get y. Think about how you would feel after you do x or get y. Think about every little minute yet important detail associated with achieving your goal. So my point is, go and explore the other side of your goal, which is- your life after achieving those goals. There are many ways to do it, such as, visualizing how it would be after achieving those goals, talking to people who have achieved their goals, and writing about why you want to achieve those goals.

  Don’t start from where you are, visualize where you want to go first. Imagine the destination first and you’ll realize how much you want it. On the other hand, you might realize that there are things about the goals which you don’t like.

  This process will help you move forward and you’ll find the hard work become easier as your mind wants to make the visualization a reality now more than ever. This process can be applied to short-term goals or even everyday tasks.

  To apply this perspective to your life for achieving your desired goals you can read more by clicking this link!

  Credit: Photo by Scott Graham on Unsplash

  June 25, 2018

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• How to build true confidence in life?

  Building confidence is a life-long process, identifying certain factors can help you understand what you need to work on, and how to move forward in the right direction.

  Before we start, you need to adopt a viewpoint of looking at confidence as not just a trait, but as an emotion, a thought, and a state of mind. You become confident when your whole mind and body agrees with it.

  This will be your one-stop guide to understand how to build true confidence in life and use this for success. Now, let’s look at those essential factors that will help you build true confidence.

  1- Fake it till you make it

  “Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.” – Brian Tracy

  This is the first step to start the process of building confidence. You can’t always be prepared for everything and you can’t always have 100% confidence in everything, sometimes you just have to fake it until it becomes real.

  For example, if you are terrified of hosting a show or giving a speech because you are not confident that you can speak in front of so many people. Then, you just have to fake confidence for some time. You keep doing it until you are actually on that stage, and this experience of just going to the stage will help you gain real confidence.

  2- Understand your core values

  Whether you are aware of it or not, your actions will always be influenced by your values and beliefs. Hence, understanding them will help you understand what you are willing to do and what you aren’t. This helps you avoid unnecessary pressure that you put on yourself to do something that you don’t even want to do.

  Focus all your energy on working on something that you believe in. If you don’t know who you really are at heart, then how can you truly build your confidence?

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  3- Accept yourself

  No one can be good at everything in this world and be “perfect”. You have to accept who you are, sure you can improve certain qualities that you don’t like, and keep modifying yourself. But, at the end of the day, you have to accept who you are, your goals and even your mistakes. It’s important because if you don’t truly accept yourself, you would never have confidence that someone else will accept you.

   4- Perfecting your skills

  So far, we have seen how to manage your thought processes when it comes to confidence. But, an equally important aspect is to improve on your skills every single day.

  If you keep perfecting your skills that you would have to use every day or something that you would have to use in your career or your life. It would help you gain true confidence since this aspect is grounded in reality. This means that to start building a strong foundation to be confident, you need to put in a lot of hard work and efforts.

  5- Don’t stop

  While you are building confidence, you can’t stop after one task or one successful event. You need to keep going and push yourself more every time, it is very easy to get stuck in the safe zone, but that won’t help you grow.

  So, keep trying out new things and put yourself out there as much as you can. The tasks or goals can be very simple and easy, but the important thing is to not stop this process.

  6- Body language

  In times of need, assume a powerful body language! This will instantly make you feel confident and lift your mood. Our body language affects how we feel and how we think. Simply walking tall with your head held high and taking wide steps will make you feel confident. Always keep your back straight, your eyes forward and avoid fidgeting or hiding your hands. These are some of the ways you will feel confident in any situation.

  Lastly, you need to remember, building true confidence is a lifelong process. These points can help you understand what to focus on and how to move forward, but it requires a lot of hard work and patience from your side. It can become difficult or frustrating, but do not give up because achieving this is truly freeing and exhilarating.

  Now that you have read how to build true confidence in life, you can read more on incorporating it in your life to achieve your desired goals by clicking this link!

  Some books that can help you out:

  The Little Book of Confidence by Susan Jeffers

  The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

  Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

  June 25, 2018

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• How to build true confidence

  Building confidence is a life-long process, identifying certain factors can help you understand what you need to work on, and how to move forward in the right direction.

  Before we start, you need to adopt a viewpoint of looking at confidence as not just a trait, but as an emotion, a thought, and a state of mind. You become confident when your whole mind and body agrees with it.

  Now, let’s look at those essential factors that will help you build confidence.

  1- Fake it till you make it

  “Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.” – Brian Tracy

  This is the first step to start the process of building confidence. You can’t always be prepared for everything and you can’t always have 100% confidence in everything, sometimes you just have to fake it until it actually becomes real.

  For example, if you are terrified of hosting a show or giving a speech because you are not confident that you can speak in front of so many people. Then, you just have to fake the confidence for some time. You keep doing it until you are actually on that stage, and this experience of just going to the stage will help you gain real confidence.

  2- Understand your core values

  Whether you are aware of it or not, your actions will always be influenced by your values and beliefs. Hence, understanding them will help you understand what you are willing to do and what you aren’t. This helps you avoid unnecessary pressure that you put on yourself to do something that you don’t even want to do, and focus all your energy on working on something that you actually believe in. If you don’t know who you really are at heart, then how can you truly build your confidence?

  3- Accept yourself

  No one can be good at everything in this world and be “perfect”. You have to accept who you are, sure you can improve certain qualities that you don’t like, and keep modifying yourself. But, at the end of the day, you have to accept who you are, your goals and even your mistakes. It’s important because if you don’t truly accept yourself, you would never have confidence that someone else will accept you.

   4- Perfecting your skills

  So far, we have seen how to manage your thought processes when it comes to confidence. But, an equally important aspect is to improve on your skills every single day.

  If you keep perfecting your skills that you would have to use every day or something that you would have to use in your career or your life. It would help you gain true confidence since this aspect is grounded in reality. This means that in order to start building a strong foundation to be confident, you need to put in a lot of hard work and efforts.

  5- Don’t stop

  While you are building confidence, you can’t stop after one task or one successful event. You need to keep going and push yourself more every time, it is very easy to get stuck in the safe zone, but that won’t help you grow.

  So, keep trying out new things and put yourself out there as much as you can. The tasks or goals can be very simple and easy, but the important thing is to not stop this process.

  6- Body language

  In times of need, assume a powerful body language! This will instantly make you feel confident and lift up your mood. Our body language has an effect on how we feel and how we think. Simply walking tall with your head held high and taking wide steps will make you feel confident. Always keep your back straight, your eyes forward and avoid fidgeting or hiding your hands. These are some of the ways you will feel confident in any situation.

  Lastly, you need to remember, building confidence is a lifelong process. These points can help you understand what to focus on and how to move forward, but it requires a lot of hard work and patience from your side. It can become difficult or frustrating, but do not give up because achieving this is truly freeing and exhilarating.

  Some books that can help you out:

  The Little Book of Confidence by Susan Jeffers

  The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

  Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

  June 25, 2018

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• Top 9 quotes on dealing with failure

  1. 1. “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” – J.K. Rowling

        

     2.  “If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.” –Zig Ziglar

        

     3. “If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very ” –Woody Allen

        

     4. “Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.” -Jack Canfield 

        

     5. “The master has failed more times than the beginner has tried.”- Stephen McCranie

        

     6. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”-Henry Ford

        

     7. “Most people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”-Napoleon Hill

        

     8. “When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. So I did ten times more work.”- George Bernard Shaw

        

     9. “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”- Michael Jordan

        

   

  June 23, 2018

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• Why am I scared of failure?

  How many times have we let an opportunity go because we are scared of failure or making a mistake? “To achieve great success, you need to be ready to face failure along the way.”

  Stumbling down and falling is a part of life, one doesn’t need to be afraid nor be embarrassed about it. If we start truly embracing and owning our failures, we will only grow and move towards the right path.

  The reality is that there will be a little bit of fear with every big step you take, and that small amount of fear is necessary to push you towards your goal, but the trick is to not let the fear grow so much that it actually prevents you from achieving your goals. This uncontrollable fear will only lead to regrets, missed opportunities and more trouble later on.

  “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”  – Jack Canfield

  Life is all about learning, evolving, and growing, and no matter how philosophical that sounds, it is that simple. If you understand that failure is inevitable in the process of learning and growing, the fear will soon start disappearing, simply because there will be no place for it anymore. Your enthusiasm, curiosity, and zest for life will soon take over.

  In many ways, failure is the best teacher you can ever have. It will push you to think outside the box, work harder and try different approaches. It will help you learn so much about yourself, and make you think in-depth about your choices and decisions. All these things are essential for success and true contentment in life. The simple thing you should tell yourself every day is that failure is inevitable on the path to success.

  If you are not failing and trying again, that means you are not moving forward.

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  So, now the question is how do we overcome this fear? How do we start embracing our failures?

  1. Understanding Your Strengths and Weakness

  The first and the most important thing that you have to do is, take time to understand your strengths and weaknesses. You can do this by taking time to reflect on your decisions at the end of the day, or simply making a pros and cons list!

  This will help you to play to your strengths and enhance them, while at the same time being aware of your weak points and improving on them. This simple activity will help you be as prepared as you can when you perform a task, so every mistake or failure will just automatically become an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself.

  2. Changing Your Perspective

  “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

  Simply looking at the world through a different lens will immediately change the way you think and feel. If you think that failing in many things, makes YOU a failure, then you need to shift that perspective to understand that it’s not the same thing.

  How will you do that?

  Well, you need to start with changing your perspective about small events in your life, such as appreciating small things in your life and trying to look at problematic situations more optimistically or learning how to be calm when you are faced with minor stressors. Then you can move onto bigger events, such as looking at failure from a different angle. Changing your perspective about a failure by looking at it as an opportunity to learn and grow, will help you get rid of that fear.

  3. Managing Your Emotions

  When you experience failure, you don’t need to suppress it or deny its existence. It is not only unhealthy, it will come back at some point in your life. When you had a bad day at work or a fight with your friend, you need to let out your emotions in a healthy way. You can simply cry, write, exercise or talk to a friend.

  Once your emotions are settled, you can focus on dealing with the problem objectively.

  4. Don’t regret your decisions

  “Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”-Henry Ford

  There are some things you can’t change, you can only wish that you can go back in time and change it. But, you don’t need to be stuck in this thought process.

  The practice of not regretting your decisions comes with having confidence that any decisions you have taken in life, you took it for a reason, even if that reason doesn’t make sense at this point of time. Regretting your decisions will lead you to a path of self-pity, which will only cloud your judgment more than ever and make you doubt your abilities.

  5. You Have The Power

  If you want to be stuck in a certain phase of life, then you can try to play it safe. But, if you want to move forward in life and achieve your goals, then you need to look at the process of failure as inevitable, even rewarding at times.

  You have the power to overcome these situations, no matter how difficult or impossible it seems. You always need to keep in mind that you have the power to change, learn and move forward.

  Hope this helps you understand a bit about why you are scared of failure and how to overcome this fear. For the next steps on your journey to overcoming fear of failure, check out the article on What Should I do after a Failure?

  Some additional resources that can help you:

  The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph– by Ryan Holiday

  How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life - By Scott Adams

  Credit: Photo by Japheth Mast on Unsplash

  June 23, 2018

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• Why you shouldn’t be afraid of failure

  “To achieve great success, you need to be ready to face failure along the way.”

  How many times have we let an opportunity go because we are afraid of failing or making a mistake?

  Stumbling down and falling is a part of life, one doesn’t need to be afraid nor be embarrassed about it. If we start truly embracing and owning our failures, we will only grow and move towards the right path.

  The reality is that there will be a little bit of fear with every big step you take, and that small amount of fear is necessary to push you towards your goal, but the trick is to not let the fear grow so much that it actually prevents you from achieving your goals. This uncontrollable fear will only lead to regrets, missed opportunities and more trouble later on.

  “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”  – Jack Canfield

  Life is all about learning, evolving, and growing, and no matter how philosophical that sounds, it is that simple. If you understand that failure is inevitable in the process of learning and growing, the fear will soon start disappearing, simply because there will be no place for it anymore. Your enthusiasm, curiosity, and zest for life will soon take over.

  In many ways, failure is the best teacher you can ever have. It will push you to think outside the box, work harder and try different approaches. It will help you learn so much about yourself, and make you think in-depth about your choices and decisions. All these things are essential for success and true contentment in life.

  The simple thing you should tell yourself every day is that failure is inevitable on the path to success. If you are not failing and trying again, that means you are not moving forward.

  So, now the question is how do we overcome this fear? How do we actually start embracing our failures?

  1. Understanding your strengths and weakness

  The first and the most important thing that you have to do is, take time to understand your strengths and weaknesses. You can do this through taking time to reflect on your decisions at the end of the day, or simply making a pros and cons list!

  This will help you to play to your strengths and enhance them, while at the same time being aware of your weak points and improving on them. This simple activity will help you be as prepared as you can when you perform a task, so every mistake or failure will just automatically become an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself.

  2. Changing your perspective

  “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

  Simply looking at the world through a different lens will immediately change the way you think and feel. If you think that failing in many things, makes YOU a failure, then you need to shift that perspective to understand that it’s not the same thing.

  How will you do that?

  Well, you need to start with changing your perspective about small events in your life, such as appreciating small things in your life and trying to look at problematic situations in a more optimistic way, or learning how to be calm when you are faced with minor stressors. Then you can move onto bigger events, such as looking at failure from a different angle.

  Changing your perspective about a failure by looking at it as an opportunity to learn and grow, will help you get rid of that fear.

  3. Managing your emotions

  When you experience failure, you don’t need to suppress it or deny its existence. It is not only unhealthy, it will come back at some point in your life. When you had a bad day at work or a fight with your friend, you need to let out your emotions in a healthy way. You can simply cry, write, exercise or talk to a friend.

  Once your emotions are settled, you can focus on dealing with the problem in an objective way.

  4. Don’t regret your decisions

  “Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”-Henry Ford

  There are some things you can’t change, you can only wish that you can go back in time and change it. But, you don’t need to be stuck in this thought process.

  The practice of not regretting your decisions comes with having confidence that any decisions you have taken in life, you took it for a reason, even if that reason doesn’t make sense at this point of time. Regretting your decisions will lead you to a path of self-pity, which will only cloud your judgment more than ever and make you doubt your own abilities.

  5. You have the power

  If you want to be stuck in a certain phase of life, then you can try to play it safe. But, if you want to move forward in life and achieve your goals, then you need to look at the process of failure as inevitable, even rewarding at times.

  You also need to remember that you have the power to overcome these situations, no matter how difficult or impossible it seems.

  You always need to keep in mind that you have the power to change, learn and move forward.

   

  Hope this helps you understand a bit about why you shouldn’t be afraid of failure and how to overcome this fear.

  Some additional resources that can help you:

  The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph– by Ryan Holiday

  The Value of Failure - by Shane Lester

  Adapt: Why Success Always Starts with Failure - By Tim Harford

  How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life - By Scott Adams

  June 23, 2018

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• 11 amazing quotes to boost your confidence

  If you want a quick pick me up then check out this list of some of the greatest quotes to boost your confidence. Save these photos and share it with your family and friends to spread the beautiful message around the world. Below is a list of 11 amazing quotes to boost your confidence.

  “Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” — Richard Kline

  

  “With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” — Dalai Lama

  

  “Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” – T. Harv Eker

  

  “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

  

  “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” — Mary Anne Radmacher

  

  You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.” – Dr. Robert Anthony                                                                                          

  “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” – Peter T. McIntyre

  

  “If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” – T. Harv Eker

  

  “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

  

  “What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.”― Norman Vincent Peale

  

  “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” ― Thomas Carlyle

  

  If you liked these quotes then you are going to love more such nuggets of wisdom from famous actors by clicking this link.

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  June 23, 2018

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• 11 Quotes to instantly boost your confidence

  1. “Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” — Richard Kline

  

   

  2. “With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” — Dalai Lama

  

   

  3. “Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” – T. Harv Eker

  

   

  4. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

  

   

  5. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” — Mary Anne Radmacher

  

   

  6. You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.” – Dr. Robert Anthony                                                                                          

  7. “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” – Peter T. McIntyre

  

   

  8. “If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” – T. Harv Eker

  

   

  9. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

  

   

  10. “What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.”― Norman Vincent Peale

  

   

  11. “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” ― Thomas Carlyle

  

  June 23, 2018

  confidence, life, Quotes, self-esteem, success

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