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How to Stay Motivated While Job Hunting This Year (2023)

The COVID-19 epidemic left millions unemployed, and the list of prominent corporations that have declared job cutbacks published by Business Insider shows that another wave of layoffs is imminent. This is probably not what you want to hear if you’re feeling anxious about your job security or uninspired as you hunt for a job around the holidays in today’s competitive employment market. The good news is that many employment chances become available in a variety of sectors at the end of the year; thus, it is essential to remain motivated throughout your job hunt.

You must continue your job hunt over the holidays. Many individuals who are now discouraged are unaware that corporations have budgets that have not yet been spent. As the end of the year approaches, as the CEO of an industry training platform, I encourage job searchers to become competitive and use their passion to their advantage. After the first shock of the pandemic, several large organisations with numerous divisions managed to recover. They will want to invest cash in recruiting and training. Now is the moment to intensify your job search efforts, as recruiting for the holidays is underway. Your search may be made more manageable by dividing your to-do list into smaller activities.

Highlight your transferrable talents
Do not restrict your search to known industries or positions. Employers are seeking versatile individuals. After all, COVID-19 compelled several businesses to rapidly alter their operations and offers. In your resume and during interviews, emphasise transferrable abilities that will allow you to offer value to a company whose business goals are susceptible to change.

See chaos as a ladder
Even major corporations like as Nike and Ford redirected their manufacturing lines to produce face masks and ventilators. New procedures and technologies have necessitated the creation of new sorts of positions in the workforce, so be on the lookout for chances that did not exist before. You just need to maintain a good attitude and adopt a fresh perspective. You have a unique skill set and history; thus, you should tailor how you communicate your knowledge and experiences to each position’s prerequisites. Demonstrate to employers how you fit within the modern business environment. You may find yourself in a position you never thought would be a great match.

Focus on digital hiring interfaces
In a society marked by social isolation, virtual interviews have essentially supplanted in-person ones, and email has assumed an even greater role in the early employment phase. Try to examine your communications objectively after each encounter with a recruiter or hiring manager. How do you come across on camera? How may your email words be interpreted? You may maximise every contact by tailoring your communication style to certain channels.

Thus, even after the end of the epidemic, the business environment will continue to evolve rapidly. In the past, you would accept any job you were offered. You no longer have this privilege. You must always update your resume and examine your network for chances. The typical employee changes employment every four years, and this rate is expected to quicken in the future years.
You may get a position you like, but you cannot assume it is secure. If you are satisfied with your current position and another company makes you an offer, you are not required to accept it. However, you should constantly be vigilant. These recommendations can teach you how to remain motivated throughout your job hunt.

January 5, 2023

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Recognizing self-pity before it seizes you

Today, I’m going to have a talk. Straight and simple. No fluff, no ego massaging. Today we talk about Self-Pity. Plain and Simple.

Self-pity is the most toxic of all emotions you can ever find. It is a manhole that we can see but don’t sidestep. It breeds slowly if you give it room and grows little by little. Like cancer, it colours everything you see and do and starts infecting you. By the time, you realise the real issue, it’s already invited all of its other friends – Depression, Hatred, Envy & Procrastination, among others, to party and together they turn you very, very unhappy.

Let’s break it down. Self-pity is simply when you feel bad for yourself. Say, you fell ill before an exam and couldn’t study as well as you would have. When the results are out, you see that your scores have taken a bit of a hit because of that one subject & that you lost a rank holding possibility because of it. Yes, it’s sad, and you are allowed to be sad about it. Self- pity comes in when you keep thinking, re-thinking about it for days on an end. It is when you just cannot accept it.

Now, say there is a campus placement opportunity for a job where you lose out purely because of that one score. Again, you are allowed to feel bad. But, if you never accepted it in the first place, you start thinking about how destiny is just against you at the moment and the world is against you.

Soon, because of constantly obsessing over the thought, you will start hating the person who did get the placement offer, because he seems to have something that you deserve. You look at it as something that was yours, but didn’t get because destiny is unfair to you. Soon, you decide that anything you do is going to fail anyway, and decide not to do anything, all together. You just accept failure. You just give up. You see where I’m going with this story?

The truth is, everyone has problems. Everyone is targeted by ‘destiny’ at some point in their life. Perhaps, some people are targeted more often than others. Life is unfair, there is nothing we can do to change it. What we can do is, focus on what we can change. We can keep working and doing what’s best for us. We can keep on trying. We can learn new things and try to turn the odds in our favour.

Let’s take a second and look at things a little logically. At any given point, you have two choices – to keep going or to give up. If you keep going, there is a chance of defeat, but if you give up, you definitely lose. I would take the lower probability any day. Self-pity does nothing. It only makes you feel sorry for yourself and makes you give up without even trying.

In simple words, one needs to indulge in a self-correcting behaviour. Stop yourself the minute you realise you are in the ‘self-pity‘ mode. Instead, think of how you can make it better. Focus on what is in your hands, rather than just wallowing in your own sadness.

August 12, 2018

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How to stop being insecure about your looks?
“My nose is not right or my thighs are too huge or my face is too chubby”, we have said these words to ourselves at least once in our life, wishing to ‘perfect’ our appearance.

As science has developed, people have an option to undergo various procedures to straighten out the perceived ‘imperfections’, even if it is dangerous. However, since it is not an affordable or a viable option for many of us, we often live our lives loathing certain parts of ourselves, leading to critical issues like low self-esteem, high insecurity and also mental health problems like depression or eating disorders. Read onto find out how to stop being insecure about your looks.

What is self-love?

For the last few years, we have seen celebrities endorsing ‘self-love’ breaking their mask of ‘perfection’ and showing their insecurities, and how they learned to love themselves. This marked the beginning of an era which challenged the strict dogmas of ‘perfection’.

Self-love is simple and easy to apply, once you start understanding and accepting yourself. You have to love yourself with all your so-called ‘imperfections’ and ignore those who are trying to putting you down on the basis of your appearance.

The cost we pay for our insecurities comes at a high price. Rather than letting them eat away at your happiness, there is a far easier and penniless solution.

How to love yourself?

While the principle may seem very easy, it can be slightly challenging to look at yourself and love yourself to a point that you wouldn’t want to change anything about yourself. It will also be difficult to be consistently confident about your self even in the face of criticism. But, these things can be tackled over a period of time and if you follow these steps, it can help you understand some basic tips on truly loving yourself.

Here are some techniques to stop being insecure
- The first step is to acknowledge that you are unique. Aspects of yourself that makes you stand out, should be embraced. If it doesn’t with the society’s standards of beauty, then focus on that aspect and love that aspect the most, because of its uniqueness.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. Each one of us is different, in looks, talents, and personalities, thus we’re bound to have differences. The sooner we learn to accept them, the easier it will be for us to love ourselves.
- Take a break from social media. Before envying someone, remember that we only post things on social media that we are sure to get appreciated for, it doesn’t mean that people’s lives are actually that perfect. So, instead of being obsessed with social media, taking a break from it can have positive effects on your self-esteem.
- Be optimistic and think positively. Positive thoughts about yourself can not only make you happy but also keep you healthy.
- Find satisfaction within yourself. Learn to find happiness with what and who you are. Set goals to take care of your body and prioritize yourself. If you want to work on yourself, then do that with a positive motivation instead of being critical of yourself.
Being insecure due to our appearance is highly common due to so many different standards of beauty in this world, but certain basic tips and thoughts can help you deal with that insecurity in a healthy manner.

If you want to read more on achieving happiness click this link.
July 24, 2018

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How to stop being insecure about your appearance?
“My nose is not right or my thighs are too huge or my face is too chubby”, we have said these words to ourselves at least once in our life, wishing to ‘perfect’ our appearance.

As science has developed, people have an option to undergo various procedures to straighten out the perceived ‘imperfections’, even if it is dangerous. However, since it is not an affordable or a viable option for many of us, we often live our lives loathing certain parts of ourselves, leading to critical issues like low self-esteem, high insecurity and also mental health problems like depression or eating disorders.

What is self-love?

For the last few years, we have seen celebrities endorsing ‘self-love’ breaking their mask of ‘perfection’ and showing their insecurities, and how they learned to love themselves. This marked the beginning of an era which challenged the strict dogmas of ‘perfection’.

Self-love is simple and easy to apply, once you start understanding and accepting yourself. You have to love yourself with all your so-called ‘imperfections’ and ignore those who are trying to putting you down on the basis of your appearance.

The cost we pay for our insecurities comes at a high price. Rather than letting them eat away at your happiness, there is a far easier and penniless solution.

How to love yourself?

While the principle may seem very easy, it can be slightly challenging to look at yourself and love yourself to a point that you wouldn’t want to change anything about yourself. It will also be difficult to be consistently confident about your self even in the face of criticism. But, these things can be tackled over a period of time and if you follow these steps, it can help you understand some basic tips on truly loving yourself.

Here are some techniques to stop being insecure
- The first step is to acknowledge that you are unique. Aspects of yourself that makes you stand out, should be embraced. If it doesn’t with the society’s standards of beauty, then focus on that aspect and love that aspect the most, because of its uniqueness.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. Each one of us is different, in looks, talents, and personalities, thus we’re bound to have differences. The sooner we learn to accept them, the easier it will be for us to love ourselves.
- Take a break from social media. Before envying someone, remember that we only post things on social media that we are sure to get appreciated for, it doesn’t mean that people’s lives are actually that perfect. So, instead of being obsessed with social media, taking a break from it can have positive effects on your self-esteem.
- Be optimistic and think positively. Positive thoughts about yourself can not only make you happy but also keep you healthy.
- Find satisfaction within yourself. Learn to find happiness with what and who you are. Set goals to take care of your body and prioritize yourself. If you want to work on yourself, then do that with a positive motivation instead of being critical of yourself.
Being insecure due to our appearance is highly common due to so many different standards of beauty in this world, but certain basic tips and thoughts can help you deal with that insecurity in a healthy manner.
July 24, 2018

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Say Yes, I Am.

It is a general predicament of our times that we are never satisfied. There is a constant need to want better, be better and do better. Now, there is nothing wrong with such a drive. After all, ambition is the fuel of Life. However, in our ambitious pursuits, somewhere, we refuse to accept ourselves.

We see a certain movie star, a role model or even a friend we admire and then try to imitate them. This is all well, but in the process, we lose ourselves. We refuse to stop for a second and ask if that really is who we are. For instance, if I want to be a great fiction writer like J K Rowling, I may try to replicate her way of writing, her comic sense or the general way in which she conducts herself. This isn’t a sound strategy, because, even if I do succeed in this way, it wouldn’t resonate who I am.

You cannot be happy in life until you are yourself. This is a not a new concept. We have a lot of people, in movies and in real life, who achieve greatness but express how they just don’t recognise themselves anymore. It’s no good if you have to give yourself up completely to achieve something.

Each one of us is unique in our own ways. We have our own special way of doing things and dealing with things. Why give that up? I agree it’s intimidating. The world is designed in a way that society expects everyone to be the same. But, this same society also celebrates those who can think out of the box. That’s the thing about society. It’s a bunch of people, who try to align to a set pattern that has been set by no one. It’s a strange concept, really. This idea of trying to ‘fit in’ needs to go away. We need to stop shrouding our greatness and ourselves just because we think ‘the society’ expects something else.

Is it going to be easy? Well, of course not. You will first realise that you just don’t know yourself at all. Take the time to get to know yourself. Talk to yourself, probably date yourself. You will realise so much more about yourself. Accept it all – both the positives and the negatives, both the strengths and the weaknesses.

By no means is this a suggestion that you shouldn’t try to improve yourself. If you believe that something about you needs to be changed, then you can do so. Human nature is not static, it’s dynamic and depends on our own choice. But, you need to know yourself in order to improve on it. Just remember that you need to be clear on your motivations for it.

If you are familiar with the Alcoholics Anonymous Programme, the first and the most important step is the acceptance of the fact that you are an alcoholic. I think that is true for everything in life. You first need to accept yourself for who you are. Only then, you can work to improve yourself. You need to know yourself to be a better self.

So, go ahead. Introspect, meditate and live life more mindfully. Say “Yes, I am, who I am and I will work every day towards becoming a better version of myself.”

July 15, 2018

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How to be strong and increase self-love?

It is a general predicament of our times that we are never satisfied. There is a constant need to want better, be better and do better. Now, there is nothing wrong with such a drive. After all, ambition is the fuel of Life. However, in our ambitious pursuits, somewhere, we refuse to accept ourselves. Hence, it is important now more than ever to understand how to be strong and increase self-love.

We see a certain movie star, a role model or even a friend we admire and then try to imitate them. This is all well, but in the process, we lose ourselves. We refuse to stop for a second and ask if that really is who we are. For instance, if I want to be a great fiction writer like J K Rowling, I may try to replicate her way of writing, her comic sense or the general way in which she conducts herself. This isn’t a sound strategy, because, even if I do succeed in this way, it wouldn’t resonate who I am.

You cannot be happy in life until you are yourself. This is not a new concept. We have a lot of people, in movies and in real life, who achieve greatness but express how they just don’t recognise themselves anymore. It’s no good if you have to give yourself up completely to achieve something.

Each one of us is unique in our own ways. We have our own special way of doing things and dealing with things. Why give that up? I agree it’s intimidating. The world is designed in a way that society expects everyone to be the same. But, this same society also celebrates those who can think out of the box. That’s the thing about society. It’s a bunch of people, who try to align to a set pattern that has been set by no one. It’s a strange concept, really. This idea of trying to ‘fit in’ needs to go away. We need to stop shrouding our greatness and ourselves just because we think ‘the society’ expects something else.

Is it going to be easy? Well, of course not. You will first realise that you just don’t know yourself at all. Take the time to get to know yourself. Talk to yourself, probably date yourself. You will realise so much more about yourself. Accept it all – both the positives and the negatives, both the strengths and the weaknesses.

By no means is this a suggestion that you shouldn’t try to improve yourself. If you believe that something about you needs to be changed, then you can do so. Human nature is not static, it’s dynamic and depends on our own choice. But, you need to know yourself in order to improve on it. Just remember that you need to be clear on your motivations for it.

If you are familiar with the Alcoholics Anonymous Programme, the first and the most important step is the acceptance of the fact that you are an alcoholic. I think that is true for everything in life. You first need to accept yourself for who you are. Only then, you can work to improve yourself. You need to know yourself to be a better self.

So, go ahead. Introspect, meditate and live life more mindfully. Say “Yes, I am, who I am and I will work every day towards becoming a better version of myself.”

July 15, 2018

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How to build true confidence

Building confidence is a life-long process, identifying certain factors can help you understand what you need to work on, and how to move forward in the right direction.

Before we start, you need to adopt a viewpoint of looking at confidence as not just a trait, but as an emotion, a thought, and a state of mind. You become confident when your whole mind and body agrees with it.

Now, let’s look at those essential factors that will help you build confidence.

1- Fake it till you make it

“Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.” – Brian Tracy

This is the first step to start the process of building confidence. You can’t always be prepared for everything and you can’t always have 100% confidence in everything, sometimes you just have to fake it until it actually becomes real.

For example, if you are terrified of hosting a show or giving a speech because you are not confident that you can speak in front of so many people. Then, you just have to fake the confidence for some time. You keep doing it until you are actually on that stage, and this experience of just going to the stage will help you gain real confidence.

2- Understand your core values

Whether you are aware of it or not, your actions will always be influenced by your values and beliefs. Hence, understanding them will help you understand what you are willing to do and what you aren’t. This helps you avoid unnecessary pressure that you put on yourself to do something that you don’t even want to do, and focus all your energy on working on something that you actually believe in. If you don’t know who you really are at heart, then how can you truly build your confidence?

3- Accept yourself

No one can be good at everything in this world and be “perfect”. You have to accept who you are, sure you can improve certain qualities that you don’t like, and keep modifying yourself. But, at the end of the day, you have to accept who you are, your goals and even your mistakes. It’s important because if you don’t truly accept yourself, you would never have confidence that someone else will accept you.

4- Perfecting your skills

So far, we have seen how to manage your thought processes when it comes to confidence. But, an equally important aspect is to improve on your skills every single day.

If you keep perfecting your skills that you would have to use every day or something that you would have to use in your career or your life. It would help you gain true confidence since this aspect is grounded in reality. This means that in order to start building a strong foundation to be confident, you need to put in a lot of hard work and efforts.

5- Don’t stop

While you are building confidence, you can’t stop after one task or one successful event. You need to keep going and push yourself more every time, it is very easy to get stuck in the safe zone, but that won’t help you grow.

So, keep trying out new things and put yourself out there as much as you can. The tasks or goals can be very simple and easy, but the important thing is to not stop this process.

6- Body language

In times of need, assume a powerful body language! This will instantly make you feel confident and lift up your mood. Our body language has an effect on how we feel and how we think. Simply walking tall with your head held high and taking wide steps will make you feel confident. Always keep your back straight, your eyes forward and avoid fidgeting or hiding your hands. These are some of the ways you will feel confident in any situation.

Lastly, you need to remember, building confidence is a lifelong process. These points can help you understand what to focus on and how to move forward, but it requires a lot of hard work and patience from your side. It can become difficult or frustrating, but do not give up because achieving this is truly freeing and exhilarating.

Some books that can help you out:

The Little Book of Confidence by Susan Jeffers

The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

June 25, 2018

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How to build true confidence in life?

Building confidence is a life-long process, identifying certain factors can help you understand what you need to work on, and how to move forward in the right direction.

Before we start, you need to adopt a viewpoint of looking at confidence as not just a trait, but as an emotion, a thought, and a state of mind. You become confident when your whole mind and body agrees with it.

This will be your one-stop guide to understand how to build true confidence in life and use this for success. Now, let’s look at those essential factors that will help you build true confidence.

1- Fake it till you make it

“Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.” – Brian Tracy

This is the first step to start the process of building confidence. You can’t always be prepared for everything and you can’t always have 100% confidence in everything, sometimes you just have to fake it until it becomes real.

For example, if you are terrified of hosting a show or giving a speech because you are not confident that you can speak in front of so many people. Then, you just have to fake confidence for some time. You keep doing it until you are actually on that stage, and this experience of just going to the stage will help you gain real confidence.

2- Understand your core values

Whether you are aware of it or not, your actions will always be influenced by your values and beliefs. Hence, understanding them will help you understand what you are willing to do and what you aren’t. This helps you avoid unnecessary pressure that you put on yourself to do something that you don’t even want to do.

Focus all your energy on working on something that you believe in. If you don’t know who you really are at heart, then how can you truly build your confidence?
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3- Accept yourself

No one can be good at everything in this world and be “perfect”. You have to accept who you are, sure you can improve certain qualities that you don’t like, and keep modifying yourself. But, at the end of the day, you have to accept who you are, your goals and even your mistakes. It’s important because if you don’t truly accept yourself, you would never have confidence that someone else will accept you.

4- Perfecting your skills

So far, we have seen how to manage your thought processes when it comes to confidence. But, an equally important aspect is to improve on your skills every single day.

If you keep perfecting your skills that you would have to use every day or something that you would have to use in your career or your life. It would help you gain true confidence since this aspect is grounded in reality. This means that to start building a strong foundation to be confident, you need to put in a lot of hard work and efforts.

5- Don’t stop

While you are building confidence, you can’t stop after one task or one successful event. You need to keep going and push yourself more every time, it is very easy to get stuck in the safe zone, but that won’t help you grow.

So, keep trying out new things and put yourself out there as much as you can. The tasks or goals can be very simple and easy, but the important thing is to not stop this process.

6- Body language

In times of need, assume a powerful body language! This will instantly make you feel confident and lift your mood. Our body language affects how we feel and how we think. Simply walking tall with your head held high and taking wide steps will make you feel confident. Always keep your back straight, your eyes forward and avoid fidgeting or hiding your hands. These are some of the ways you will feel confident in any situation.

Lastly, you need to remember, building true confidence is a lifelong process. These points can help you understand what to focus on and how to move forward, but it requires a lot of hard work and patience from your side. It can become difficult or frustrating, but do not give up because achieving this is truly freeing and exhilarating.

Now that you have read how to build true confidence in life, you can read more on incorporating it in your life to achieve your desired goals by clicking this link!

Some books that can help you out:

The Little Book of Confidence by Susan Jeffers

The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz

Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

June 25, 2018

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11 Quotes to instantly boost your confidence
1. “Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” — Richard Kline
1. “With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” — Dalai Lama
1. “Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” – T. Harv Eker
1. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
1. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” — Mary Anne Radmacher
1. You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.” – Dr. Robert Anthony
2. “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” – Peter T. McIntyre
1. “If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” – T. Harv Eker
1. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ― Theodore Roosevelt
1. “What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.”― Norman Vincent Peale
1. “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” ― Thomas Carlyle
June 23, 2018

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11 amazing quotes to boost your confidence

If you want a quick pick me up then check out this list of some of the greatest quotes to boost your confidence. Save these photos and share it with your family and friends to spread the beautiful message around the world. Below is a list of 11 amazing quotes to boost your confidence.

“Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” — Richard Kline

“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” — Dalai Lama

“Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” – T. Harv Eker

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” — Mary Anne Radmacher

You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.” – Dr. Robert Anthony

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” – Peter T. McIntyre

“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” – T. Harv Eker

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

“What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.”― Norman Vincent Peale

“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” ― Thomas Carlyle

If you liked these quotes then you are going to love more such nuggets of wisdom from famous actors by clicking this link.

Credit: Photo by Adeolu Eletu on Unsplash

June 23, 2018

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