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• How to work smart for success?

  “Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.”- Pele

  When it comes down to the recipe of success, hard-work is a key ingredient. However, a recipe isn’t created by merely one ingredient, it requires other things too.

  Here are a few pointers that would be handy while following your passion.

  Success isn’t guaranteed with one action

  You have to keep in mind that hard-work doesn’t always mean that you will be successful. So while working you shouldn’t be worried about failures and whether you will achieve it or not. You just have to ensure that you put in your 100%.

  Talk to the experts

  If there are two basketball players, one player has spent day and night trying to figure out the strategies and techniques, instead of just practicing. And the other player has hired a trustworthy coach who is giving him his own expertise along with training. So now the second player has expertise from another source and his own hard work and knowledge, this will be a powerful combination as compared to the player one.

  Taking the risk

  “If you want it, go for it. Take the risk. Don’t always play it safe or you will keep wondering forever.”  Taking a risk could be a step towards your goal. But since it is termed as a risk it could hamper your career too. The choice is up to you and in times when you’re stuck making important decisions, you need to consider each and every possibility very carefully. You can’t rely solely on hard-work now at this point, the results depend on how a person thinks and works under a critical situation.

  Work Smart

  You don’t always have to keep working hard, sometimes you can use your creativity to work smart. Working smart will help you maintain a balanced lifestyle and give you the time and energy to explore different aspects of life. Not only will you feel peaceful, but you will also be able to work with a clear mind.

  A pinch of Luck

  “Life isn’t fair. It never was and never will be.” Indeed it is true because sometimes things aren’t the way you want them to be. Sometimes no matter how hard you work, at the end of the day, you don’t get the rewards or someone else gets chosen over you. In life, anything can happen at any moment in time. So, you shouldn’t feel discouraged if something doesn’t happen right away, but rather be motivated to follow your passion.

  January 12, 2020

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• Examples of famous people overcoming failures

  Failure is the first step towards success. Every once in a while we fail at a number of things. That shouldn’t make you give up but rather to make you work harder. Rather than losing hope, we should see it as an opportunity. Rather than feeling dejected, we should see it as a task to do the job in a different, innovative and successful way. At the age of 67 when the factory of Thomas Elva Edison got burned out, there wasn’t a pinch of fear in his face. He calmly walked over to his son and told him he got rid of all the rubbish and now he will start again from tomorrow.
  So here are 5 famous stories of a setback that later on contributed to even more success for the people. These real life examples of famous people overcoming failures can inspire us and help us learn how to keep moving in our path to success even in the face of setbacks.

  Charlie Chaplin

  We all know Charlie Chaplin as one of the best comedians. But he has had a fair share of failures and struggles in his life. His father left him when he was only 2 years old and his mother was in a mental asylum. For almost all of his childhood years, he had to look after himself and his younger brother, Sydney. He had to earn for them and often ended up eating nothing and living a stray life.

  But all of that didn’t stop him from succeeding in life. He followed his passion despite all the shortcomings. He did not know what lay ahead of his path to his passion. There was risk in it but he did what his heart desired and finally after tons and tons of failures made his way to showbiz and became an all time favorite comedian in the world.

  Charlie Chaplin once said, “Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even troubles.” For more such quotes by Charlie Chaplin, follow this link.

  It isn’t always about running away from the failures, getting scared of them. You should know that whatever you’re trying for is what your heart longs for and give your best.

  Colonel Harland Sanders

  We all know that he was the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC). He too struggled a lot in his life. At the age of 5, his father died. While his mother went on for work he was given the job of feeding and taking care of two of his siblings. By age 14 he left his home and after that worked at odd jobs for a number of years. At 40 he opened his restaurant and began serving chicken. By the age of 50, he had lost all of his business due to a fire. At the age of 65, he failed another business and decided to sell his recipe. He was rejected by many restaurants before finally, one accepted his offer. In response to all the failures he had suffered, the famous businessman said, “One has to remember that every failure can be a stepping stone to something better”.

  Harrison Ford

  Harrison Ford, aka ‘The Indiana Jones’ is a known figure. He is one of the most talented, hardworking and decorated individuals to step into the Hollywood industry. He was born to parents who were both involved in the industry, it could be said acting was in his blood.

  A lot of expectations were from him. However, in his first film, the executives told him that he simply didn’t have what it takes to be a star. At this point, he could’ve quit it. Having so much pressure and in the first job you’re told that however hard you may try, you won’t make it big. Imagine how he would’ve felt. But he said NO to giving up. It was at the age of 31 when he got his breakthrough role in the movie after numerous rejected auditions in films, voice covers and doing odd jobs. Harrison Ford famously once said, “To me, success is a choice and opportunity.”

  J.K. Rowling

  She is one of the most renowned authors having written the wildly popular Harry Potter series.

  Her entire childhood was difficult, maintaining an already strained relationship with her father and dealing with her mother’s disease of multiple sclerosis. At the age of 17, she applied to Oxford University and was rejected. It was at the age of 25 when she was moving to Manchester on a 4 hour delayed train that the idea of Harry Potter came to her mind. At the age of 38, she was divorced, had a daughter, victim of domestic abuse and had only completed 3 chapters of her first novel. She felt that she was a failure, having failed in everything she has put efforts on. She was suicidal. She could’ve easily dropped the idea of some wizards. She could’ve easily accepted the fate and could’ve felt that maybe it was in the destiny to fail and could’ve let go of it. But did she?

  By 1995 she had finished the book Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. Her book got rejected by 12 major publications until finally, one gave her a deal. Fast forward to 2004, she was the first person to have achieved billionaire status via writing.

  J.K. Rowling famously quoted “Its impossible to live without failing at something unless you might’ve lived so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all.”

  Michael Jordon

  Regarded as the Greatest basketball player of all time, Michael Jordon or MJ was born in 1963 and is an unparalleled winner in the history of sports, having never been defeated in the NBA finals and a playing style that was as competitive and jaw-dropping as it could get.

  Having not been picked for a varsity team, the incident affected Jordon to the core of his life. He couldn’t believe what had happened and started crying in front of everyone. It was his mother, who then encouraged him to work even harder. From then on, he spent hours and hours working on his shooting, his footwork and ball-handling. For years all he ever thought of was Basketball.
  At the age of 38, having retired from sports, he decided to play the game again. Imagine picking up basketball and playing that game where people who were almost half his age were dominating. He was still a success then. It was his sheer determination, love for the game, and the courage to follow his passion that led to his success. Michael Jordon once quoted “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

  So if you want to achieve something in your life the only way is to keep working in face of any kind of obstacles and failures. This is because, in the path to success, failures and obstacles are inevitable, hence it should not scare you, rather you should gently remind yourself that it can be dealt with the power of hard work, perseverance and passion.

  For more such articles on overcoming obstacles, you might be interested in What should I do after a failure?

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  January 1, 2020

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• What should I do after a failure?

  The real truth is that no matter how optimistic or cheerful we are, there are moments in our life that will make us question our own existence, our purpose and our identity. It usually happens when you face a major setback or failure, which makes you doubt your own actions and ideas. This subsequently leads to the question of what should I do after a failure? What’s next?

  Over the past few months, with a series of setbacks, I realized that we truly have two practical options. Either we can give up and settle for something that doesn’t speak to us, or we can let the failure sink in, learn from it and then get up to try again or re-design our plan. Either way, we have to adjust our own perspective, which is what will be reflected in our behaviour.

  A fundamental truth about such a situation is that,  sometimes, setbacks (especially the ones we don’t have much control over) isn’t really about us. Yes, it has an impact on us, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that we lack in a particular skill or there is something wrong with us. It is just that the world is a vast place with millions of people, and at any given moment most of us are aiming and fighting for similar things, so having a setback doesn’t mean you should feel sad or give up. For example, if you are competing with thousands of other students for a scholarship and you don’t get the scholarship, it doesn’t mean that your academic qualification is suddenly not up to the mark, or that you are not good enough. It just means that the scholarship board for their own reasons and thought process made their decision, not because one student is better than the other, but because that one student might be what they are looking for. This is important to understand because that one person might be what “they are looking for”, had it been a different type of scholarship, or a different group of people, they would be looking for another type of person.

  In the above section, I attributed the fact that the world has millions of people competing for similar opportunities as a reason for a setback, but ironically, this is the same reason that can motivate you to fight for what you want after a setback. Let’s look at this line of thought from a different and a more hopeful perspective, ”the world is vast, with millions of people (more chance to meet like-minded people or more chances to learn from people) and there are so many opportunities, that we can’t possibly be tied down to the grief of one failure.

  So, what’s next after a failure? Well, anything you want! You can choose anything in the world that speaks to you and makes sense to you. “Failure isn’t the end of the world, because the world is still here for you to explore and choose for yourself, what you want to do next.”

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  You can immediately begin taking the next step by reading our article on using the art of reflection to help you succeed in life.

  March 25, 2019

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• What should I do after a failure? What’s next?

  The real truth is that no matter how optimistic or cheerful we are, there are moments in our life that will make us question our own existence, our purpose and our identity. It usually happens when you face a major setback or failure, which makes you doubt your own actions and ideas.

  Over the past few months, with a series of setbacks, I realized that we truly have two practical options. Either we can give up and settle for something that doesn’t speak to us, or we can let the failure sink in, learn from it and then get up to try again or re-design our plan. Either way, we have to adjust our own perspective, which is what will be reflected in our behavior.

  A fundamental truth about such a situation is that,  sometimes, setbacks (especially the ones we don’t have much control over) isn’t really about us. Yes, it has an impact on us, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that we lack in a particular skill or there is something wrong with us. It is just that the world is a vast place with millions of people, and at any given moment most of us are aiming and fighting for similar things, so having a setback doesn’t mean you should feel sad or give up. For example, if you are competing with thousands of other students for a scholarship and you don’t get the scholarship, it doesn’t mean that your academic qualification is suddenly not up to the mark, or that you are not good enough. It just means that the scholarship board for their own reasons and thought process made their decision, not because one student is better than the other, but because that one student might be what they are looking for. This is important to understand because that one person might be what ”they are looking for”, had it been a different type of scholarship, or a different group of people, they would be looking for another type of person.

  In the above section, I attributed the fact that the world has millions of people competing for similar opportunities as a reason for a setback, but ironically, this is the same reason that can motivate you to fight for what you want after a setback. Let’s look at this line of thought from a different and a more hopeful perspective, ”the world is vast, with millions of people (more chance to meet like-minded people or more chances to learn from people) and there are so many opportunities, that we can’t possibly be tied down to the grief of one failure.

  Hence, what’s next after a failure? Well, anything you want! You can choose anything in the world that speaks to you and makes sense to you. “Failure isn’t the end of the world, because the world is still here for you to explore and choose for yourself, what you want to do next.”

  March 25, 2019

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• Inspiration decoded

  

  As a kid, I watched this cartoon called Pokemon. In this show, there was a mystic bird called Ho-oh, who was very rare and the sight of whom, promised hope and greatness in life. Now, it is later revealed that she makes herself visible only to those who are truly capable and those with a true and pure heart. (Needless to say, the protagonist Ash and his Pikachu see this bird in the very first episode of the First Arc. Isn’t he lucky?).  This bird seems like the best analogy for Inspiration now, to my adult mind. (The child in me still hopes that Pokemon are real and that I get a Charmander; but that’s secondary, I suppose).

  These days, inspiration is this mystic Pokemon who everyone wants to catch. The problem is, we want the bird to fly down to us, and trap itself in the cage we hold in our hand. Inspiration, we all believe, is something we ‘ought’ to get, as if it is something that belongs to us and we have a right over. The other school of thought that is a continuation of this belief is that it is a matter of luck and comes to people, just randomly.

  But didn’t Elizebeth Gilbert, in her famous TED talk, talk about how some of the greatest people in history describe Inspiration as something they caught out of thin air? Didn’t she recommend that all people should believe that too? Yes, yes, dear sir, I concede to your idyllic memory. But the truth is, she meant it as a way to beat the stress of expectation and fame, rather than as a justification for throwing in the towel.

  I do admit that inspiration seems to come out of nowhere. But really, it’s a culmination of everything we have done and everywhere we have been.  Even when we are not consciously thinking of something, our mind keeps making connections in the background. A Coursera Course of ‘Learning How to Learn’ gives us a little more insight into it. According to them, when we are stressed, our brains and systems do not work as efficiently. But after a stressful period, when we take a break and calm down, then our brain starts making connections and intrinsically understanding the problems and analyzing it on the unconscious level, that is, in the background.

  At this functioning level, it understands the concept in its unique way, based on all your experiences and knowledge. It is when this process goes on, that often, uncanny connections are made and the mind comes up with gems.

  So, is the solution to just wait till this ‘inspiration’ comes in? Well, that’s often what most of us seem to do. This specifically plagues the writers between us. I can talk from personal experience though, that this approach is not the best approach as it often leads to missing deadlines and delays in submissions (ask those who have had to deal with my delays). The better approach seems to be to create a ‘bad’ first draft on the basis of what you understand and can think at that moment. After that, you can work on improving and revising it. Putting things down in a more concrete way, after all often helps us process in a more positive way.

  ‘Inspiration’ thus, is a slow process that requires deliberate and consistent hard work, not for days, but years, for it comes from everything you put into your mind through the years. So, as you go ahead to ‘catch em all’, do remember that the mystical bird only comes to those who have earned their place there, and even then, puts up a great fight before being captured.

  Some additional resources on inspiration:

  Read: Awaken the giant within by Anthony Rob

  Watch: Ted- How great leaders inspire action by Simon Sinek

   

   

   

  September 5, 2018

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• How do I inspire myself?

  As a kid, I watched this cartoon called Pokemon. In this show, there was a mystic bird called Ho-oh, who was very rare and the sight of whom, promised hope and greatness in life. Now, it is later revealed that she makes herself visible only to those who are truly capable and those with a true and pure heart. (Needless to say, the protagonist Ash and his Pikachu see this bird in the very first episode of the First Arc. Isn’t he lucky?).  This bird seems like the best analogy for Inspiration now, to my adult mind. (The child in me still hopes that Pokemon are real and that I get a Charmander; but that’s secondary, I suppose).

  These days, inspiration is this mystic Pokemon who everyone wants to catch. The problem is, we want the bird to fly down to us, and trap itself in the cage we hold in our hand. Inspiration, we all believe, is something we ‘ought’ to get, as if it is something that belongs to us and we have a right over. The other school of thought that is a continuation of this belief is that it is a matter of luck and comes to people, just randomly.

  But didn’t Elizebeth Gilbert, in her famous TED talk, talk about how some of the greatest people in history describe Inspiration as something they caught out of thin air? Didn’t she recommend that all people should believe that too? Yes, yes, dear sir, I concede to your idyllic memory. But the truth is, she meant it as a way to beat the stress of expectation and fame, rather than as a justification for throwing in the towel.

  I do admit that inspiration seems to come out of nowhere. But really, it’s a culmination of everything we have done and everywhere we have been.  Even when we are not consciously thinking of something, our mind keeps making connections in the background. A Coursera Course of ‘Learning How to Learn’ gives us a little more insight into it. According to them, when we are stressed, our brains and systems do not work as efficiently. But after a stressful period, when we take a break and calm down, then our brain starts making connections and intrinsically understanding the problems and analyzing it on the unconscious level, that is, in the background.

  At this functioning level, it understands the concept in its unique way, based on all your experiences and knowledge. It is when this process goes on, that often, uncanny connections are made and the mind comes up with gems.

  So, is the solution to just wait till this ‘inspiration’ comes in? Well, that’s often what most of us seem to do. This specifically plagues the writers between us. I can talk from personal experience though, that this approach is not the best approach as it often leads to missing deadlines and delays in submissions (ask those who have had to deal with my delays). The better approach seems to be to create a ‘bad’ first draft on the basis of what you understand and can think at that moment. After that, you can work on improving and revising it. Putting things down in a more concrete way, after all often helps us process in a more positive way.

  ‘Inspiration’ thus, is a slow process that requires deliberate and consistent hard work, not for days, but years, for it comes from everything you put into your mind through the years. So, as you go ahead to ‘catch em all’, do remember that the mystical bird only comes to those who have earned their place there, and even then, puts up a great fight before being captured.

  Some additional resources on inspiration:

  Read: Awaken the giant within by Anthony Rob

  Watch: Ted- How great leaders inspire action by Simon Sinek

  September 5, 2018

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• Top 9 quotes on dealing with failure

  1. 1. “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” – J.K. Rowling

        

     2.  “If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.” –Zig Ziglar

        

     3. “If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very ” –Woody Allen

        

     4. “Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.” -Jack Canfield 

        

     5. “The master has failed more times than the beginner has tried.”- Stephen McCranie

        

     6. “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”-Henry Ford

        

     7. “Most people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”-Napoleon Hill

        

     8. “When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. So I did ten times more work.”- George Bernard Shaw

        

     9. “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”- Michael Jordan

        

   

  June 23, 2018

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• Why you shouldn’t be afraid of failure

  “To achieve great success, you need to be ready to face failure along the way.”

  How many times have we let an opportunity go because we are afraid of failing or making a mistake?

  Stumbling down and falling is a part of life, one doesn’t need to be afraid nor be embarrassed about it. If we start truly embracing and owning our failures, we will only grow and move towards the right path.

  The reality is that there will be a little bit of fear with every big step you take, and that small amount of fear is necessary to push you towards your goal, but the trick is to not let the fear grow so much that it actually prevents you from achieving your goals. This uncontrollable fear will only lead to regrets, missed opportunities and more trouble later on.

  “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”  – Jack Canfield

  Life is all about learning, evolving, and growing, and no matter how philosophical that sounds, it is that simple. If you understand that failure is inevitable in the process of learning and growing, the fear will soon start disappearing, simply because there will be no place for it anymore. Your enthusiasm, curiosity, and zest for life will soon take over.

  In many ways, failure is the best teacher you can ever have. It will push you to think outside the box, work harder and try different approaches. It will help you learn so much about yourself, and make you think in-depth about your choices and decisions. All these things are essential for success and true contentment in life.

  The simple thing you should tell yourself every day is that failure is inevitable on the path to success. If you are not failing and trying again, that means you are not moving forward.

  So, now the question is how do we overcome this fear? How do we actually start embracing our failures?

  1. Understanding your strengths and weakness

  The first and the most important thing that you have to do is, take time to understand your strengths and weaknesses. You can do this through taking time to reflect on your decisions at the end of the day, or simply making a pros and cons list!

  This will help you to play to your strengths and enhance them, while at the same time being aware of your weak points and improving on them. This simple activity will help you be as prepared as you can when you perform a task, so every mistake or failure will just automatically become an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself.

  2. Changing your perspective

  “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

  Simply looking at the world through a different lens will immediately change the way you think and feel. If you think that failing in many things, makes YOU a failure, then you need to shift that perspective to understand that it’s not the same thing.

  How will you do that?

  Well, you need to start with changing your perspective about small events in your life, such as appreciating small things in your life and trying to look at problematic situations in a more optimistic way, or learning how to be calm when you are faced with minor stressors. Then you can move onto bigger events, such as looking at failure from a different angle.

  Changing your perspective about a failure by looking at it as an opportunity to learn and grow, will help you get rid of that fear.

  3. Managing your emotions

  When you experience failure, you don’t need to suppress it or deny its existence. It is not only unhealthy, it will come back at some point in your life. When you had a bad day at work or a fight with your friend, you need to let out your emotions in a healthy way. You can simply cry, write, exercise or talk to a friend.

  Once your emotions are settled, you can focus on dealing with the problem in an objective way.

  4. Don’t regret your decisions

  “Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”-Henry Ford

  There are some things you can’t change, you can only wish that you can go back in time and change it. But, you don’t need to be stuck in this thought process.

  The practice of not regretting your decisions comes with having confidence that any decisions you have taken in life, you took it for a reason, even if that reason doesn’t make sense at this point of time. Regretting your decisions will lead you to a path of self-pity, which will only cloud your judgment more than ever and make you doubt your own abilities.

  5. You have the power

  If you want to be stuck in a certain phase of life, then you can try to play it safe. But, if you want to move forward in life and achieve your goals, then you need to look at the process of failure as inevitable, even rewarding at times.

  You also need to remember that you have the power to overcome these situations, no matter how difficult or impossible it seems.

  You always need to keep in mind that you have the power to change, learn and move forward.

   

  Hope this helps you understand a bit about why you shouldn’t be afraid of failure and how to overcome this fear.

  Some additional resources that can help you:

  The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph– by Ryan Holiday

  The Value of Failure - by Shane Lester

  Adapt: Why Success Always Starts with Failure - By Tim Harford

  How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life - By Scott Adams

  June 23, 2018

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• Why am I scared of failure?

  How many times have we let an opportunity go because we are scared of failure or making a mistake? “To achieve great success, you need to be ready to face failure along the way.”

  Stumbling down and falling is a part of life, one doesn’t need to be afraid nor be embarrassed about it. If we start truly embracing and owning our failures, we will only grow and move towards the right path.

  The reality is that there will be a little bit of fear with every big step you take, and that small amount of fear is necessary to push you towards your goal, but the trick is to not let the fear grow so much that it actually prevents you from achieving your goals. This uncontrollable fear will only lead to regrets, missed opportunities and more trouble later on.

  “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”  – Jack Canfield

  Life is all about learning, evolving, and growing, and no matter how philosophical that sounds, it is that simple. If you understand that failure is inevitable in the process of learning and growing, the fear will soon start disappearing, simply because there will be no place for it anymore. Your enthusiasm, curiosity, and zest for life will soon take over.

  In many ways, failure is the best teacher you can ever have. It will push you to think outside the box, work harder and try different approaches. It will help you learn so much about yourself, and make you think in-depth about your choices and decisions. All these things are essential for success and true contentment in life. The simple thing you should tell yourself every day is that failure is inevitable on the path to success.

  If you are not failing and trying again, that means you are not moving forward.

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  So, now the question is how do we overcome this fear? How do we start embracing our failures?

  1. Understanding Your Strengths and Weakness

  The first and the most important thing that you have to do is, take time to understand your strengths and weaknesses. You can do this by taking time to reflect on your decisions at the end of the day, or simply making a pros and cons list!

  This will help you to play to your strengths and enhance them, while at the same time being aware of your weak points and improving on them. This simple activity will help you be as prepared as you can when you perform a task, so every mistake or failure will just automatically become an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself.

  2. Changing Your Perspective

  “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

  Simply looking at the world through a different lens will immediately change the way you think and feel. If you think that failing in many things, makes YOU a failure, then you need to shift that perspective to understand that it’s not the same thing.

  How will you do that?

  Well, you need to start with changing your perspective about small events in your life, such as appreciating small things in your life and trying to look at problematic situations more optimistically or learning how to be calm when you are faced with minor stressors. Then you can move onto bigger events, such as looking at failure from a different angle. Changing your perspective about a failure by looking at it as an opportunity to learn and grow, will help you get rid of that fear.

  3. Managing Your Emotions

  When you experience failure, you don’t need to suppress it or deny its existence. It is not only unhealthy, it will come back at some point in your life. When you had a bad day at work or a fight with your friend, you need to let out your emotions in a healthy way. You can simply cry, write, exercise or talk to a friend.

  Once your emotions are settled, you can focus on dealing with the problem objectively.

  4. Don’t regret your decisions

  “Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”-Henry Ford

  There are some things you can’t change, you can only wish that you can go back in time and change it. But, you don’t need to be stuck in this thought process.

  The practice of not regretting your decisions comes with having confidence that any decisions you have taken in life, you took it for a reason, even if that reason doesn’t make sense at this point of time. Regretting your decisions will lead you to a path of self-pity, which will only cloud your judgment more than ever and make you doubt your abilities.

  5. You Have The Power

  If you want to be stuck in a certain phase of life, then you can try to play it safe. But, if you want to move forward in life and achieve your goals, then you need to look at the process of failure as inevitable, even rewarding at times.

  You have the power to overcome these situations, no matter how difficult or impossible it seems. You always need to keep in mind that you have the power to change, learn and move forward.

  Hope this helps you understand a bit about why you are scared of failure and how to overcome this fear. For the next steps on your journey to overcoming fear of failure, check out the article on What Should I do after a Failure?

  Some additional resources that can help you:

  The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph– by Ryan Holiday

  How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life - By Scott Adams

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  June 23, 2018

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